Monday, July 23, 2012

An Excuse for Everything

Some clients have an excuse for everything.   It’s one of the most frustrating things a mentor can encounter.  No matter what you say or suggest, they have a ready answer about why they can’t do that, or it won’t work.

The most effective response to this situation is to ask the woman:  What are you willing to do?   And then wait for their answer.   Do not prompt them.  This is the time when it’s most effective to let a woman come to the realization that she needs to take action to make the situation better.

It’s in our nurturing nature to try to help them fix their situation, but for a woman who has an excuse for everything, the behavior of offering an excuse for everything is a core problem to their ability to move forward.

Coach them through it by insisting they decide what has to happen and then encouraging them to do it.  Resist the urge to get in there and play the game for them.

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